Are you caught up on forgiveness? No lingering issues bothering you? If you answered yes, good for you. Staying caught up on forgiveness can be a challenge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes I just don\u2019t want to forgive. Don\u2019t feel like it. Don\u2019t think the person who offended me deserves it. If this were up to me, I\u2019d let it slide. Forever. But it isn\u2019t up to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jesus gave us one option: forgiveness. \u201cFor if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sin\u201d (Matthew 6:14-15).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Webster defines forgive<\/em> this way: \u201cto cease to feel resentment against.\u201d The dictionary does not explain how to accomplish this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My preferred response to hurt\u2014putting the matter out of mind and moving on\u2014is not forgiveness. Making a decision to cease feeling resentment doesn\u2019t work for me, either. I can tell myself all day I will not be resentful<\/em>. But the resentment hovers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So how are we to get past hurtful offenses and live a joy-filled life? Only by making a decision to forgive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Refusing to forgive opens a dark cavern in the heart that the Enemy rushes to fill with bitterness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nRefusing to forgive opens a dark cavern in the heart that the Enemy rushes to fill with bitterness. <\/a><\/span>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/span>\n\n\n\n Bitterness is a synonym for resentment, which Webster defines as a \u201cfeeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here\u2019s how bitterness develops: when my feelings get trampled, I experience anger. If I resist God\u2019s command to forgive and continue to mull over the hurt, resentment becomes deep-seated\u2026rooted. Now I have a root of bitterness. Two clues that I\u2019m bitter:<\/p>\n\n\n\n When the Lord began teaching me how to overcome bitterness through forgiveness, I realized I\u2019d never truly forgiven anyone in my life. My method of forgiveness\u2014choosing to put the offense out of mind\u2014was not genuine forgiveness. I could even treat the offender with kindness without doing the heart-work of forgiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I wasn\u2019t aware I carried any old grudges. But when I humbled myself before the Lord asking him to search my heart, he brought to mind dozens of people\u2014some of them already in heaven\u2014who had hurt my feelings in the past. How ridiculous to be harboring hostility against someone already in the presence of the Lord!<\/p>\n\n\n\n When he opened that musty box of stored hurts and exposed the contents, I gladly accepted his help. \u201cLord, I\u2019m willing to forgive. Show me how.\u201d He began teaching me: \u201c\u2026acquit and forgive and release (give up resentment, let it drop), and you will be acquitted and forgiven and released\u201d (Luke 6:37 Amplified).<\/p>\n\n\n\n That sounds like a decision, independent of feeling. Knowing I needed specifics, the Lord gave me this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Lord did his part, performing such a miracle that I found myself loving as though I\u2019d never been hurt. That\u2019s the true test of forgiveness\u2014loving as though you were never hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How good it felt to be so clean! But forgiveness is not a once-forever thing. People will continue doing things I have to forgive. Living in relationship requires living in a state of continual forgiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nForgiveness is not a once-forever thing. People will continue doing things I have to forgive. Living in relationship requires living in a state of continual forgiveness. <\/a><\/span>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/span>\n\n\n\n Jesus died so we could be forgiven. What he said about those who crucified him impacts me profoundly. \u201cFather, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing\u2026\u201d (Luke 23:34).<\/p>\n\n\n\n I found another huge truth while reading in Exodus and Numbers about the grumbling Israelites. It sounded like they were grumbling against Moses and Aaron, but listen to what Moses said: \u201c\u2026the Lord heareth your murmurings which ye murmur against him\u2026Your murmurings are not against us, but against the Lord\u201d (Exodus 16:8).<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Lord said it himself. \u201cHow long shall I bear with this evil congregation, which murmur against me? I have heard the murmurings of the children of Israel, which they murmur against me\u201d (Numbers 14:27).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Key truths to remember when I am hurt:<\/p>\n\n\n\n So\u2026how do we actually practice forgiveness? I use this simple prayer:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lord, I choose to forgive in obedience to you and trust you to work the miracle of forgiveness in my heart. I confess my bitterness as sin. I surrender my hurt to you with absolute confidence that you control all the circumstances of my life\\ and every experience you allow will work for my good and your glory. Cleanse me of all bitterness and fill me with your love.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Are you caught up on forgiveness? Today is a good day to clean out that musty box of bitterness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What has the Lord taught you about forgiveness? I\u2019d love to hear. And I\u2019d be grateful if you would share this with your friends!<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00a9 Dianne Barker 2020<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you caught up on forgiveness? No lingering issues bothering you? If you answered yes, good for you. Staying caught up on forgiveness can be a challenge. Sometimes I just don\u2019t want to forgive. Don\u2019t feel like it. 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